Letting Go of Shoulds and Learning to Trust Yourself
A reflection on food, “shoulds,” and the deeper patterns we live by—and what it looks like to begin trusting yourself instead of trying to be good.
Category: Challenging Emotions
Did I Just Mess Everything Up by Saying No?
I said no… and for a moment, it felt freeing.
Then I got home, and the questions started creeping in.
Did I just mess everything up?
This is what it feels like to choose yourself—and then question if you got it right.
Learning to Hold On
Sometimes life feels unsteady, like being caught in the current with no clear way out. This is a reflection on what it means to hold on, let go, and find your way through uncertain moments.
When Life Feels Out of Control: Learning Self-Compassion
When life feels unpredictable and overwhelming, our nervous system can only hold so much. Sometimes the most powerful response is self-compassion.
Standing at the Door: Trauma, Healing, and Choosing the Pace
Sometimes healing doesn’t feel like moving forward—it feels like standing at a door you didn’t choose to open. This is a reflection on trauma, self-compassion, and learning to choose the pace rather than forcing the process.
Finding Wisdom in Life’s Storms
There is a deep sadness that resides within today that I can’t adequately explain. I think part of it is the residual emotions left over from the holidays and the dread of having to...
Authenticity is Trusting Your Own Current
I recently was reminded of a time when I went snorkeling in Hawaii. This was many years ago when life was still being lived with masks and honestly felt a bit simpler. I love...
Feeling Stuck? Trusting the In-Between Space
I feel very alone and stuck right now. I’m like a caterpillar who decided she didn’t want to be a caterpillar anymore. So, she spun her chrysalis and got inside. At first it felt...
The Remarkable Gift from Unremarkable Acts
I had a CT scan this week and as I read the doctor’s report, I focused on the areas where problems were described. However, my attention was then drawn to the other areas described...
Spiritual Refill: A Path Back to Your True Nature
I’m sitting here pondering about what I want to share. It’s been a difficult few months of feeling like I was failing at this journey of choosing to live an authentic life. I had...
Trusting the Mud
Well … it’s been a while since I posted. I’ve had some health challenges that I could use as a legitimate excuse. However, the real reason I haven’t posted is because I got lost...
The Healing Power of Belonging
It’s been a while since I posted. Life has felt crazy, and my creative juices have been a bit dry. So, I’m feeling unsure of how to write about this topic. It has been...
Suppressing Emotions Doesn’t Work
I took the picture above because the landscape looked so different from just a few months ago. Where there was once dense vegetation and winding paths, now everything has been cleared away. The dryness...
When Challenges Collide
Several years ago, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). I honestly had no idea what it meant, and the name made me feel like I had a major defect. However, just like...
The Power of Grief
This is a difficult post to write as I am writing it just prior to the anniversary of my mom’s death and the birthday of my nephew who also died. These were two individuals...
