Letting Go of Shoulds and Learning to Trust Yourself
A reflection on food, “shoulds,” and the deeper patterns we live by—and what it looks like to begin trusting yourself instead of trying to be good.
Category: Authenticity
Did I Just Mess Everything Up by Saying No?
I said no… and for a moment, it felt freeing.
Then I got home, and the questions started creeping in.
Did I just mess everything up?
This is what it feels like to choose yourself—and then question if you got it right.
Breaking the Shell that Hides the Real You
I had an interesting conversation earlier this week. It was probably one of the most honest and authentic discussions I’ve had. There wasn’t any profound wisdom conveyed or solution discovered to make all my...
Authenticity is Trusting Your Own Current
I recently was reminded of a time when I went snorkeling in Hawaii. This was many years ago when life was still being lived with masks and honestly felt a bit simpler. I love...
Shedding the Masks that No Longer Fit
I had all these thoughts about what to write and now that I’m sitting here, nothing comes to mind. There is a part of me that doesn’t want to write about the difficult experiences...
The Remarkable Gift from Unremarkable Acts
I had a CT scan this week and as I read the doctor’s report, I focused on the areas where problems were described. However, my attention was then drawn to the other areas described...
Building a New Foundation
I’ve been thinking about my last post on “trusting the mud.” I think it’s easy to feel like being in the mud is a bad thing—but is it? The Lotus flower is used as...
Trusting the Mud
Well … it’s been a while since I posted. I’ve had some health challenges that I could use as a legitimate excuse. However, the real reason I haven’t posted is because I got lost...
Do I Even Matter? Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
This one is difficult to write because it touches on painful questions I’ve struggled to answer most of my life. Do I matter? Do I have self-worth? Do I add value to relationships? Have...
The Healing Power of Belonging
It’s been a while since I posted. Life has felt crazy, and my creative juices have been a bit dry. So, I’m feeling unsure of how to write about this topic. It has been...
Breaking Free from the Wackadoo Game of Life
Several months ago, I decided it was time to officially be diagnosed as a wackadoo. It’s my term for a person whose thoughts get all whacky making the same ineffective choices. My ego then...
Suppressing Emotions Doesn’t Work
I took the picture above because the landscape looked so different from just a few months ago. Where there was once dense vegetation and winding paths, now everything has been cleared away. The dryness...
Trying to Predict the Paths of Life
This past week has been a challenge, and I haven’t been in much of a mood to write. I’ve started a new approach in therapy called Internal Family Systems, to work on trauma from...
Speak Your Truth
I recently came across a journal entry I wrote in 2007 that I want to share. “I actually think it would help church congregations to be vulnerable and to show our weaknesses. I think...
The Sparkling Ocean of Awareness
I recently chose a mystery picture on an app for coloring. Because I’m on my phone, I stay zoomed in to find all the smaller areas to color. For this picture, I found myself...
