The Remarkable Gift from Unremarkable Acts
I had a CT scan this week and as I read the doctor’s report, I focused on the areas where problems were described. However, my attention was then drawn to the other areas described...
Choosing an Authentic Life Blog
Spiritual Refill: A Path Back to Your True Nature
I’m sitting here pondering about what I want to share. It’s been a difficult few months of feeling like I was failing at this journey of choosing to live an authentic life. I had...
Building a New Foundation
I’ve been thinking about my last post on “trusting the mud.” I think it’s easy to feel like being in the mud is a bad thing—but is it? The Lotus flower is used as...
Trusting the Mud
Well … it’s been a while since I posted. I’ve had some health challenges that I could use as a legitimate excuse. However, the real reason I haven’t posted is because I got lost...
Do I Even Matter? Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
This one is difficult to write because it touches on painful questions I’ve struggled to answer most of my life. Do I matter? Do I have self-worth? Do I add value to relationships? Have...
The Healing Power of Belonging
It’s been a while since I posted. Life has felt crazy, and my creative juices have been a bit dry. So, I’m feeling unsure of how to write about this topic. It has been...
Breaking Free from the Wackadoo Game of Life
Several months ago, I decided it was time to officially be diagnosed as a wackadoo. It’s my term for a person whose thoughts get all whacky making the same ineffective choices. My ego then...
Suppressing Emotions Doesn’t Work
I took the picture above because the landscape looked so different from just a few months ago. Where there was once dense vegetation and winding paths, now everything has been cleared away. The dryness...
Trying to Predict the Paths of Life
This past week has been a challenge, and I haven’t been in much of a mood to write. I’ve started a new approach in therapy called Internal Family Systems, to work on trauma from...
The Art of Listening versus Fixing
Recently a friend of mine asked if we could talk. We connected virtually and when I saw her, I knew she was struggling. She related the situation through tears, and I did my best...
When Challenges Collide
Several years ago, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). I honestly had no idea what it meant, and the name made me feel like I had a major defect. However, just like...
The Power of Grief
This is a difficult post to write as I am writing it just prior to the anniversary of my mom’s death and the birthday of my nephew who also died. These were two individuals...
Speak Your Truth
I recently came across a journal entry I wrote in 2007 that I want to share. “I actually think it would help church congregations to be vulnerable and to show our weaknesses. I think...
Rays of Light
I had to admit in a discussion the other day that I was sinking back into depression. For anyone who hasn’t experienced it themselves, let me just say it’s a pain in the ass....
The Pitfalls of Avoidance
I feel like I am in a state of avoidance right now using different techniques I turn to when life feels too difficult or there are emotions I do not want to feel. I...
